Healing takes time. It is a process. We have not been taught how to heal internally, emotionally, or mentally. We have learned to ignore the process, to suffer until something else distracts us to “move on”. This adds layers of wounding as triggers for all future relationships. It is the reason relationships start to feel hard, scary or impossible.
It has become our responsibility to teach ourselves how to heal so we can enter relationships with scars instead of battlegear.
We understand the time and care it takes to heal a physical wound which means we have the blueprint in us already.
If at all possible, remove what does not belong like you would a splinter or an arrow. How do you release the pent up emotions or shift your mindset? Have a dish breaking session, scream out your discomfort in your car, unload your hurt on a punching bag or lay on the earth and release what no longer serves you…
What is the salve that calms your mind, your heart, your soul?? Music, animals, friendship, exercise, community… Seek out those things that dress and assist in healing your wounds.
Remember healing is happening consistently in the background even when it doesn’t feel like it. It is up to you to decide if you want to make the effort to “set the bone” ie. give yourself the proper support to heal in the strongest, most effective way or to ignore it and deal with the consequences of a wound that didn’t heal quite right.